I just returned from a wedding planning meeting with a new client, and she said something that made me stop and think….how obvious. How absolutely perfect. How much sense that makes. The ceremony is the most important part of my wedding day, she said. It’s the center, the meat, the reason for doing this thing. And she said, I’ve seen those pictures that photographers take of the ceremony. They’re at the back of the aisle, and capturing the whole scene, and it’s a shot of their backs with their iPad’s and iPhones in the air, recording the ceremony. I’ve been at a wedding where I had to move because the person in front of me was recording the entire ceremony on their iPad, she added.
And so, she said, we’re having a technology-free ceremony.
Simple as that. She said, we have you. You’re in charge of documenting the event, and we trust you to do just that. The responsibility of those around us is to be witness. To lend us their hearts for those thirty minutes as we bond ours to each other.
Her clear-eyed wisdom struck me.
The question for you is: how many tabs to you have open on your browser right now?
How many things are on your to-do list?
How much are you getting done right now, in this moment? If you want to be here, right now, reading this and reflecting on your own life, then be here. Turn off the phone, close the door, take five minutes to reflect.
Can we live in the moment without fear? The fear that if we are completely present, that we’ll miss something.
Remember: We cannot live the world in a moment.